From Bra Straps Gone Wild To Bear Attacks, What To Do In An Emergency

It doesn't matter who you are. The worst happens to all of us sometimes. Whether it’s a fashion emergency, a car emergency or an emergency you'll later have to deal with in a therapist's office, the only thing we can do is prepare for the inevitable. After all, emergencies are way less dramatic when you have the right tools on hand. Here are five things that have saved everything from my ass to my outfit during those less than glamorous moments. 

The Strap Saver


Bra emergencies are beyond frustrating. Have you ever had a bra strap that kept falling down, even though it’s absolutely the tightest it could be? Have you ever felt like your strap had a personal vendetta against you and was trying to ruin your outfit on purpose? If this sounds like familiar, the Strap Saver will be your superhero. Available in several colors and sizes, the Strap Saver saves the straps on everything from bras to bathing suits, as well as dresses and tops. If that isn’t reason enough, 5% of each sale is donated to Jill’s Wish, an organization thats funds the household bills of women undergoing cancer treatment. So, get good boobies and extra karma points. It also makes a great stocking stuffer for that annoying friend who is always asking you to tighten up her falling straps. 

Hollywood Fashion Secrets Emergency Kit

Do you experience fashion emergencies like a nip slip, deodorant stain or the tragic loss of an earning back? Then you need to keep a Hollywood Fashion Secrets Emergency Kit in your closet at all times. Containing a variety of items including fashion tape, deodorant remover sponge, safety pin, sewing supplies, shoe shine sponge, nail file, etc, it has everything you need should an emergency (or something close enough) arise. 

Tide To Go Stain Remover Pen


I keep a Tide To Go Stain Remover Pen in every handbag at all times because I’m clumsy and eat like a six year old. A just a dab or two saves my outfit from getting ruined and prevents my dry cleaner from getting rich. And per the off chance I don't end up needing the pen, someone else at the table always does.

FLARED Luxury Deluxe Auto Emergency Kit


Even if you don't drive a luxury car, there's no reason why you shouldn't have a luxury emergency kit because there is nothing less luxurious than an emergency that happens out on the road. Make sure you are prepared with FLARED’s Luxury Deluxe Kit, which includes jumper cables, duct tape, screwdriver, box cutter, reflective belt, twine, pen, first aid kit, The FLARED Guide, poncho, LED Flashlight, mini ice scraper, pepper spray, tire pressure gauge, glow sticks (for car-related emergencies, not club-related emergencies), hand sanitizer, LED flare, water bottle, sport beans, battery power bank (to charge your phone), umbrella, and pocket-size tissues (so you can wipe your tears until AAA comes).


This is every conversation I've ever had about needing a personal defense device:

Friend: Amanda, what if you're walking around LA and you get attacked by a bear, coyote or that neighbor who hates you?

Me: I'll run...

Friend: What if you're in heels?

Me: I used to run for the subway in heels all of the time when I lived in New York.

Friend: I'm scared for you. You need to get pepper spray.

Me: So I can accidentally blind myself on a windy day. No thank you.

Friend: What about a knife?

Me: Not going to happen.

Friend: A taser.

Me: Expensive and potentially illegal. 

Friend: Good vibes?

Me: Sure, that will save me. Please send me good vibes via Express Mail. 

The problem with many personal defense devices, like pepper spray or a knife, is they can difficult to use or they can be used against you. That’s why the ROBOCOPP was invented. This sound grenade is tiny, clips onto any standard keychain, is affordable and easy to use (just activate by pulling a pin). At 120 decibels, it will startle attackers, scare off animals, and let everyone in your neighborhood know they messed with the wrong person. 

Go Ahead and Be Selfish: Self-Care 101

For a variety of reasons, so many of us are feeling stressed out and anxious right now. It’s not the first time we’ve felt this way and I’m sure it won’t be the last. There is so much in the world we can’t control. But, we can control the way we react to it. Or at the very least, try to. I know this is so much easier said than done. Consider this post a hug from me.

During these times, it’s absolutely necessary to prioritize self-care. I know from experience that sometimes even just the thought of trying to take care of yourself can feel like someone asking you to climb Machu Pichu or devise a policy to create peace in the Middle East. But, I’ve also learned that even the most minor acts of self-care and self-love can radically change how I feel. Here are nine ways to take care of yourself in during difficult times, in order of actual effort.

(Disclaimer: I’m not a professional. I’m just a blogger who gets anxious a lot. These things work for me. If you need professional help, please get it. If you don’t know how to, read until the end of the post.)

Puppies! Kittens! Bunnies! Hippopotami!

Looking at cute animals online is a great distraction. It also works instantly.  Not kidding. I like The Fluffington Post and the Toast Meets World. Get lost in a clickhole. It’s totally okay.

Get Off The Couch And Out Of The House

When I’m anxious, I need to channel my energy into things that are not an SVU marathon on Netflix. Even just a walk to get coffee feels super helpful. Run an errand like buying groceries or pick up necessities at the drug store. Even just a quick trip has a positive effect!


There is a scientific connection between exercise and anxiety relief. It doesn’t matter if you go to yoga, spin, Pilates or something else. Whatever type of exercise you don’t hate completely will work.  

But, if fitness isn’t your thing (no judgments), you don’t have to go all out. No one is going to force you to wear a FitBit or printed leggings. You can start small, like walking around the block for half an hour daily or going to a class three days a week. Anything counts, so celebrate your efforts.

Connect With Others

Isolating probably isn’t going to help you. Meet up with a friend for a meal, drinks or just for a walk (yes, you can combine several of these efforts and multi-task). Share your feelings. Vent. Talk about reality television.

Retail Therapy

If the thought of going to a large mall or shopping center sounds overwhelming to you (it does to me, even on a good day), pick two or three of your favorite stores and take it from there. Buy yourself a present! You deserve it! Even something small like a new lipstick will make you feel better.

Treat Yourself

It doesn’t matter if it’s a mani-pedi at your local salon, the Cosmo-Tai at Drybar or a full-on facial at a fancy spa, get your relax on.


I don’t want to turn this post into a personal essay, but I learned how to meditate over three years ago. It was during a really difficult time in my life that was further complicated by getting fired from two jobs I hated, several months apart. I felt so alone and I had no idea why the universe was challenging me so much. Instead of going on a downward spiral, I went to a meditation group every night for a week. It gave me a community, structure and relief from my own headspace. That place was Against The Stream in Los Angeles.  They also have locations in other cities including New York, San Francisco and Boston. I highly recommend it.

I also really like The Den in Hollywood, which offers a variety of different classes multiple times a day, so you can definitely find something to work with your schedule. It’s also not affiliated with Buddhism, in case that isn’t your thing.

If you don’t live in one of these cities or the thought of having to sit in a room and meditate with a group of other people sounds just about as relaxing as a jackhammer, why not try meditating with an app? I personally like the Calm and Simple Habit. Both are free with in-app purchases and feature both guided and unguided meditations. Even just sitting for a few minutes can make a big difference.

Online Therapy

There are times when only a professional can help or you just need to talk to someone immediately, if not sooner. Even if you have insurance, getting an appointment with a therapist can be a daunting task. Luckily, there are tons of places online that will connect you with a professional through video, phone or even text, including Talk Space and Doctor On Demand and 7 Cups