Formal Event Style Ideas For The Formally Confused

Not a day goes by where someone does not post a picture of an outfit on Facebook (mostly in private groups consisting of 99.999% female membership) asking if it is appropriate to wear to a wedding or another large event. After all, if you've only been to two weddings ever, one of which was your second cousin twice removed's third wedding, how are you really supposed to know what to wear? There's no shame in that. But, if you are uncomfortable asking a group of 2,000-20,000 women what they think, just keep it to yourself and keep these guidelines in mind instead.  

A Little Black Dress Is Appropriate For Everything

I feel like this is a good rule for life. The classic little black dress is classic for a reason. You will never regret buying one. There is a little black dress for every size, shape, body type and budget. Even if you don't need one at the moment, you should always have one on hand because you never know when you will be invited to a last minute event.

If Black Isn't Your Bag, Try Navy

I love navy because it's a more cheerful version of black. It's equally flattering but a little less serious looking. It's also a little lighter for a daytime or outdoor soirée.

Invest In Your Wardrobe

If you find you are going to formal events every so often with different crowds of people, it's a good investment to buy one or two high-quality dresses you can wear from season to season. Then change it up with different shoes and accessories.

Or Snag A Bargain

If you don't have the budget for an investment dress, you can still look fab.  Here are a few ideas under $100.

But Always Follow This Cardinal Rule: Never Ever Wear White, Cream or Any Shade That Could Be Described As "Bridal" To A Wedding

I get it. You look stunning in ecru, but it’s not your day. It’s the bride's. Don’t risk being the guest that ruined her life. Instead, choose a light or pastel color.

Things We're Too Lazy To Blog About Podcast: Pregnant

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Live from Ali’s pre July4th BBQ! Someone is pregnant and it’s not Ali or Amanda. It’s Ali’s East Coast bestie, Nicole. In this episode we dish about getting pregnant, having kids, high school, why Ali is ready for babies and why Amanda is not, Amanda’s OG fave podcast, birth control nightmares, and so much more. Have a happy and safe holiday!

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Things We're Too Lazy To Blog About: Nikki Lund

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We get REAL in this episode with Nikki Lund. First, we talk fashion with Nikki and she tells us all about her 10 Essentials Collection. Then we get DEEP into a serious convo about life, bullying, being a parent, helping other women, Internet trolls, working hard, ambition, feeling good about yourself and so much more.  

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How A Fitness Instructor Should Make You Feel

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Photo by Hayley Fisk. Makeup by Kinx Active. Location dr pilates Los Angeles.

I’m not sure if you know this fun fact about me, but I’ve taken close to 550 group fitness classes in the past two or so years. I’m not trying to brag or say “Look at how fit I am,” but I want to share what I’ve learned through the process.

Last week, A Sweat Life published an article I wrote about group fitness. I briefly mentioned a horrible experience I had with an instructor. If you haven’t had a chance to read that post (and you really should), let me recap.

Two years ago, I unknowingly signed up for a West Coast Pilates class. If you aren’t familiar with West Coast style Pilates, it’s essentially Pilates on crack. It was my first time at that studio and I felt like a complete idiot. I had no idea what was going on or what to do. To make matters worse, the instructor was particularly unkind to me for no reason. While I have seen so many instructors go out of their way to help first-timers, this guy seemingly enjoyed making me feel unwelcome. I had to hold back tears. I felt like my body didn’t work right. A good instructor will gently guide you and NEVER shame you. Luckily, I gave the studio another chance and found several instructors who were nothing like that guy. I’m happy I didn’t let him ruin it for me entirely.

A good instructor should be able to teach multiple levels at the same time, beginners to advanced.  Everyone in a group fitness class will have different strengths and weaknesses anyway. For example, some people have strong arms, but weak legs. A decent instructor should at least try to accommodate everyone. And if they can’t, someone doesn’t have a challenging workout and someone else inevitably ends up injuring themselves.

Furthermore, an instructor needs to make sure everyone knows how to the machines and equipment properly. Being short (5”3 on a good day) can be a challenge for me because most equipment is designed for taller people. Some exercises have to be modified or I sometimes use equipment differently than someone who is six feet tall.  We all deserve to get the most out of our workout and if you aren’t comfortable working with equipment, it becomes impossible to have correct form. If you feel something isn’t right or you just aren’t sure if you are performing an exercise properly, ask the instructor. Their job is to guide you.

Then there’s the playlist factor. Musical taste has no correlation to teaching, but we all know there’s only so much EDM a person can take if they aren’t on molly. But, in all seriousness, we know how much easier it is workout to music we actually like or at the very least provides a beat that’s compatible to the tempo of the exercise at hand. I once walked out of a spin class and canceled my membership to a gym after an instructor played this song. If you aren’t sadistic enough to click, it’s a super slow, annoying song and by annoying I mean pretty much a musical abomination. Not surprisingly, I wasn’t the only person who walked out of that class. As a result, my current standards for playlists consist of anything that isn’t that song.

But I’ve also had lots of positive experiences. Because I’m rather petite, if you tell me I’m strong, you win my undying love, appreciation and extra karma points. Say I have great form, then I will think of you as the American Express Platinum of fitness instructors. Because of my stature, many people perceive me as weak. I even use to think of myself as weak, until I had instructors tell me otherwise. While anyone has yet to describe me as the kind of person you “wouldn’t mess with in a dark alley,” you wouldn’t want me to accidentally kick you. 

Fitness can be transformative. It’s a cliché, but changing your mind can change your body. Instructors should encourage you and safely push you to try harder. I think this is all part of body positivity. If you are going to do something to improve your physical and likely emotional wellbeing, you deserve to do it in a supportive environment with people who make you feel more confident. It doesn’t matter what your ability is, what your body looks like or what your goals are.  And if you’re really lucky, they like Beyonce just as much as you do.

 

F-it Fridays: Beach Bag Please Edition

We need to talk about bag appropriateness. I can't tell you how often I go to the pool or the beach and see people with inappropriate handbags. Okay, I totally sound judgy, but it's not what you think. I just feel like people are mistreating their precious purses. Should I call APS (Accessories Protective Services)? After all, mixing the wrong things can be dangerous. Ever drink shots of vodka before wine? Nope, you were not fine. Mixing an expensive accessory made from something not meant to get wet or sandy with water, sand, unknown sea creatures and most likely over-enthusiastic children sounds like a recipe for a fashion disaster. So maybe it's time to protect your Louis, Kate or Goyard by leaving them at home and invest in a bag made that's made just for the beach (or pool or lake, you get what I mean). Here are a few of my favorites. 

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Straw pom pom is the it style this season. Score this adorable steal from Forever 21.

If you think of straw as more of a drink accessory than a fashion accessory, Lilly Pulitzer's Bohemian Beach Tote will be your fav piece of arm candy this summer. Lilly Pulitzer prints are so classic and will look stylish for years to come. 

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Trina Turk's Barbados Tote is perfect for brunch or to put in the basket of a bicycle. I don't know why and I don't even really like bicycles. 

I always take a small clutch to the beach to keep my phone, wallet and a lipgloss in. This pineapple pouch by Kayu reminds me of a summer cocktail or a fruit salad. Hopefully, the former. 

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Don't take an uncool cooler to the beach or stash your sandwiches (or tequila) in a basic grocery bag. Instead, use the super chill watermelon cooler bag from Ban.do. It also might be fun to take watermelon out of the watermelon bag and made a fun Instragram story about it. I feel a Boomerang coming on!

 

You can't go wrong with a classic nautical style beach tote. This striped bag from ASOS fits everything you need for a chic beach day. It also coordinates well with most swimwear styles. 

 

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Do you struggle to find a place for your wet stuff every time you go to the beach? You're welcome. Problem solved

Things We're Too Lazy To Blog About Podcast: Fitness

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This week, we get into it about fitness. I talk about inconsiderate people at the gym, my love for AKT, ClassPass, the car accident that changed my life, anxiety, the wisdom of Keltie Knight, The Hamptons, my favorite Pilates studio in LA (dr pilates) and what I has learned after taking 500+ group fitness classes. Ali chats Krav Maga (not to be confused crab dip), working out at home, DVDs (remember those?), feeling good, Danette May and more.

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Use promo code ALAKT4U for 50% off your first month of AKT On Demand.

To take a free class in LA, register on AKT. Then email clientservicesla@aktinmotion.com and tell them you heard about AKT through the podcast, as well as the date of the class you want to take.

I wrote an article for A Sweat Life which further details my experience at AKT. So, obviously if you haven't quite had enough of me talking about AKT, give it a read.

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Things We're Too Lazy To Blog About: With Special Guest Annabelle DeSisto

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We welcome our first guest for episode 4, the brilliant and hilarious Annabelle DeSisto of the Adderall and Compliments Podcast. If you’re an A&C Kitten, thank you for listening, we love you.

In this episode we discuss how amazing Annabelle’s hair is (to a nearly obsessive level), Joan Rivers (Annabelle’s former boss), Postmates, why needing cash is a complete nightmare, Kim Kardashian, The Drybar Book and compare the post-jail styles of Paris Hilton and Teresa Giudice.

But we mostly talk about our collective favorite docu-series The Real Housewives. Specifically, Dorit Kemsley, Kyle Richards, caftans, how Kim Richards ruins everything, Lisa Rinna, Kim Zolciak vs Erika Jayne, Bethenny Frankel’s hustle and Sojna Morgan’s townhouse. Ali spills all about styling Lisa Vanderpump and what it’s really like at Villa Rosa. Spoiler Alert: Giggy is alive.

However, if you aren’t a Housewives person, we also dish on lots of other things including  Scheana  Shay from Vanderpump Rules, Lilly Pulitzer dresses, plastic surgery, CoolSculpting, being an only child, Amanda’s Gossip Girl life, staircases, marble flooring, bidets, Queer as Folk and vagina juice.

Annabelle also shares an inspirational story about how one of the Kittens bought her crystal kit and won the lottery!

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F-it Fridays: Hotel Chic Edition

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Happy Weekend and beginning of summer! Is everyone ready to GTFO? I know I am. Whether you are going for a short weekend jaunt, a day trip or an actual vacay, we all know how annoying packing and unpacking is. Here are a few of my favorite essentials to make the trip easier and more efficient. Treat yourself because F-it, It’s Friday, you deserve it!

If you’ve ever put shoes or dirty laundry in a clean suitcase and felt totally uncomfortable with it, you need to get these canvas bags from Miss A. There’s one for shoes, laundry (stop scrambling for plastic hotel bags) and lingerie/swimwear. But, my personal favorite is the bag for beauty tools. The last time I traveled I was so afraid of packing my hot curling iron in my suitcase that I (allegedly) wrapped the barrel in a washcloth I took from my hotel. Luckily, I don’t have to do that again. Did I mention all of these are just $1.00 each? Also, my apologies to the U.S. Grant in San Diego (pictured above, by the way).

I don’t care if it’s old school, I still love Longchamp Le Pliage bags. I challenge anyone to find something better for travel. These bags are light as can be, affordable, durable and available in tons of colors. You can take them to the beach or dinner in Paris, France or Paris, Texas. Take your bag as a carry-on for the plane or stuff it in your suitcase to bring extra things home.

I’m all about Sole Society’s Lacie Faux Leather Duffle Bag weekender. There are lots of reasons why I like faux leather. It’s cruelty-free (yay for bonus karma points). This material also tends to be lighter than the real thing. Isn't your stuff heavy enough? Also, leather bags make me really nervous because I am always afraid it’s going to get scratched and ruin my life. 

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Build me up Baby Buttercup. I love Drybar’s Baby Buttercup travel hair dryer. Don’t rely on your hotel to have an adequate hairdryer and risk having a bad hair vacation. By the way, If are struggling to pack all of your beauty stuff, this post will save your life, or at least your night serum.

There are so many different ways to wear Lilly Pulitzer’s colorful Seaspray wrap. You can use it as a light blanket on the plane, as a scarf with pants, as a sarong or even a dress on the beach. It’s a must-have if you are trying to pack lightly.

Finally Happy With My Skin: My AM/PM Routine

On the third episode of my podcast and on the blog (you know, the thing you are reading), I talk a lot about skincare. But I’ve never gone through my personal routine here. Over the years and even in the past few months, it's changed a lot. But, I’m finally at a place where at least at the moment, I’m really happy with how my skin looks. I’ve also found by using multi-tasking products, I’ve been able to cut down on the number of bottles in my medicine cabinet, but with much better results. 

AM

In the morning, I use Shiseido Pureness Foaming Cleansing Fluid. I’ve started using it in high school and while I’ve tried so many face washes, I really think this my favorite for several reasons. It’s very sudsey and foamy. Unless a product really foams, I never feel like my face is thoroughly clean. I use ¼ to half a pump. Which brings me to the next reason why I like it. It’s cheap. Because the product is so concentrated, every bottle lasts several months. Did I mention my husband also uses it? I can’t imagine how long a bottle would last if I didn't share it.

I always cleanse my face with a Foreo Luna 2. I love this device because it deep cleanses, exfoliates and prevents aging. It’s also one of the most efficient products I own. Because it’s made from silicone, there are no replacement heads. Let’s get real for a second here. Cleansing devices are an investment, but knowing you don’t need replacement heads and you’re only buying this once, makes it smart. It also stays charged forever. I’ve had mine for two years and I think I’ve charged it less than ten times. Because it exfoliates well (but gently), I also don’t need to buy a separate exfoliating product. 

Post cleanse, I use Kopari Coconut Rose Toner. My skin has become a lot more sensitive lately (I’ll explain why in the PM) and most toners burn like a pre cranberry juice UTI. Haven’t we all been there? Like a bad TV special, “After When Animals Attack, stay tuned for When Toner Burns.” Kopari Coconut Rose Toner is alcohol, phthalate and cruelty free. It’s also vegan and non-GMO. I ether use a cotton pad or spritz directly on my face, for a mid-day refresh. It has a mild, natural scent and not like a gas station air freshener, which is often a risk with anything rose or coconut. 

I follow up with Drunk Elephant C-Firma Day Serum, which is kind of like a personal assistant for your face. It firms, lifts, brightens and reduces the appearance of photo aging (aka what happened when I went to Miami, didn’t wear sunscreen and came home with brown spots that stayed for too long like that friend who won’t leave your house at 4:30am). This serum also gives you a glow, which is nice if you are going makeup-free.

Another thing I like about this product is that it stays active on your skin for up to 72 hours, so if I put it on, workout and shower, I know it’s still getting the job done. Sometimes I mix the serum with B-Hydra Intensive Hydration Gel if my skin needs an extra dose of hydration. Both of these products absorb quickly.  

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Finally, I apply StriVectin Intensive Eye Concentrate For Wrinkles. I love this eye cream because it doesn’t just help with wrinkles; it also helps with dark circles and puffiness. Perhaps it should be renamed StriVectin Intensive Eye Concentrate For Wrinkles + All Other Eye Related Problems. Maybe StriVectin needs to hire me to name their products.

PM

My PM routine depends on the night. If I’m wearing makeup, I always remove it with Kopari Coconut Cleansing Oil. This product is life changing. And I rarely say that. In fact, I often make fun of people who use “life changing” to describe anything beauty related. But, if you’ve ever sat there for fifteen minutes, trying to scrape every last bit of makeup off your face, you know the struggle is real. I take a few pumps of oil in my hands, massage it into a dry face for a minute and then rinse off with a hot washcloth. No trace of makeup is left behind. Seriously. Then, I double cleanse K-Beauty style with my Shiseido Cleanser.

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What happens after the PM cleanse is a tossup. I try to use Retin A Micro every other night. It’s a prescription treatment for acne, but has been proven to help with the affects of aging. While any retinol-based works, trust me when I say that a prescription pad is your skin’s best accessory.

This product takes the place of three others I used to need. I've stopped using an additional exfoliator, night serum and tossed my pimple spot treatment.

But beware, Retin A is POWERFUL. It’s drying and has made my skin a million times more sensitive. So, I have to be extra diligent about moisturizing. Luckily I have a not-so-secret weapon.

Sometimes, my skin gets too sensitive and dry even for the gentlest moisturizers and it feels like my face is on fire. Drunk Elephant Virgin Marula Luxury Facial Oil is the only product that not only doesn’t hurt my face, but also clears up any sign of irritation overnight. I don’t even know how that is possible, but marula oil works miracles.

Now, I know I’ve mentioned two oils in this post and people with combo skin are probably freaking out. Please don’t. Oil will not make your oil situation worse. In fact, since I’ve committed to using oils, my skin is actually more balanced because my skin has stopped over producing its own oil supply. I know doing this requires a leap of faith, but you need to face your fears for better skin. 

My final step in both the AM and PM, is the same, applying StriVectin Intensive Eye Concentrate For Wrinkles around my eye area. Obvs, not in my eyes because that would be dangerous. Please read all instructions.