Things We're Too Lazy To Blog About Podcast: Brian Howie of The Great Love Debate

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Today we talk sex, love, relationships and dating with Brian Howie of The Great Love Debate Podcast and live show. Everyone will enjoy the episode, but if you’ve ever asked yourself any the following questions, you will find it especially enlightening.

Why am I still single?

Why is he such a jerk?

Why I can’t I find someone?

What’s wrong with him?

Can he quit it with the dick pics already? (Also, gross!)

By the way, I will be live on stage at The Great Love Debate Returns To Los Angeles on November 15th.

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So Last Week... Things I Read That Are Totally Worth Your Time

The past seven days have been exhausting for so many of us. As I said in a post earlier this week, if you are feeling stressed or anxious, it’s totally okay to take time out for yourself. Take a yoga class, meditate, get a fancy massage or even just a give yourself a few moments to take a break and read something that has nothing to do with politics. Here are a few suggestions.

Petite Style Script: Ultimate Step-By-Step Guide To Home Manicures With CND Shellac

You don’t have to be petite to appreciate Petite Style Script’s post on home manicures. That being said, I’m terrible at doing my own nails and desperately need to try this method. #goals

Pop Sugar: 12 Ways You're Using Your Beautyblender Totally Wrong

Fun Fact: I’m the only blogger who doesn’t use a Beautyblender, so I will probably never have a post about the best way to use one. Instead, listen to the experts at Pop Sugar.

Lauren Conrad: I Was the First One In My Friend Group to Get Married…Here’s What I Learned

I’m married, but some of my friends are still single. This post written by Jess Burrone rang so true to me.

Mind Body Green: 5 Reasons You Can't Find Lasting Love (And How To Overcome Them)

This essay by Shannon Kaiser is a must-read guide for singles about how manifesting the love of others can only happen once you truly love yourself. While it sounds like a grand concept for a blog post, this essay is incredibly well written and digestible.

Man Repeller: Why Do We Call Our Moms When Bad Stuff Happens?

In this post, a psychologist explains why we still need our parents even when we are adults.

Is there a link I should include in next week’s post? Please email suggestions to AmandaLauren212 [at] gmail.com.

Go Ahead and Be Selfish: Self-Care 101

For a variety of reasons, so many of us are feeling stressed out and anxious right now. It’s not the first time we’ve felt this way and I’m sure it won’t be the last. There is so much in the world we can’t control. But, we can control the way we react to it. Or at the very least, try to. I know this is so much easier said than done. Consider this post a hug from me.

During these times, it’s absolutely necessary to prioritize self-care. I know from experience that sometimes even just the thought of trying to take care of yourself can feel like someone asking you to climb Machu Pichu or devise a policy to create peace in the Middle East. But, I’ve also learned that even the most minor acts of self-care and self-love can radically change how I feel. Here are nine ways to take care of yourself in during difficult times, in order of actual effort.

(Disclaimer: I’m not a professional. I’m just a blogger who gets anxious a lot. These things work for me. If you need professional help, please get it. If you don’t know how to, read until the end of the post.)

Puppies! Kittens! Bunnies! Hippopotami!

Looking at cute animals online is a great distraction. It also works instantly.  Not kidding. I like The Fluffington Post and the Toast Meets World. Get lost in a clickhole. It’s totally okay.

Get Off The Couch And Out Of The House

When I’m anxious, I need to channel my energy into things that are not an SVU marathon on Netflix. Even just a walk to get coffee feels super helpful. Run an errand like buying groceries or pick up necessities at the drug store. Even just a quick trip has a positive effect!

Exercise

There is a scientific connection between exercise and anxiety relief. It doesn’t matter if you go to yoga, spin, Pilates or something else. Whatever type of exercise you don’t hate completely will work.  

But, if fitness isn’t your thing (no judgments), you don’t have to go all out. No one is going to force you to wear a FitBit or printed leggings. You can start small, like walking around the block for half an hour daily or going to a class three days a week. Anything counts, so celebrate your efforts.

Connect With Others

Isolating probably isn’t going to help you. Meet up with a friend for a meal, drinks or just for a walk (yes, you can combine several of these efforts and multi-task). Share your feelings. Vent. Talk about reality television.

Retail Therapy

If the thought of going to a large mall or shopping center sounds overwhelming to you (it does to me, even on a good day), pick two or three of your favorite stores and take it from there. Buy yourself a present! You deserve it! Even something small like a new lipstick will make you feel better.

Treat Yourself

It doesn’t matter if it’s a mani-pedi at your local salon, the Cosmo-Tai at Drybar or a full-on facial at a fancy spa, get your relax on.

Meditate

I don’t want to turn this post into a personal essay, but I learned how to meditate over three years ago. It was during a really difficult time in my life that was further complicated by getting fired from two jobs I hated, several months apart. I felt so alone and I had no idea why the universe was challenging me so much. Instead of going on a downward spiral, I went to a meditation group every night for a week. It gave me a community, structure and relief from my own headspace. That place was Against The Stream in Los Angeles.  They also have locations in other cities including New York, San Francisco and Boston. I highly recommend it.

I also really like The Den in Hollywood, which offers a variety of different classes multiple times a day, so you can definitely find something to work with your schedule. It’s also not affiliated with Buddhism, in case that isn’t your thing.

If you don’t live in one of these cities or the thought of having to sit in a room and meditate with a group of other people sounds just about as relaxing as a jackhammer, why not try meditating with an app? I personally like the Calm and Simple Habit. Both are free with in-app purchases and feature both guided and unguided meditations. Even just sitting for a few minutes can make a big difference.

Online Therapy

There are times when only a professional can help or you just need to talk to someone immediately, if not sooner. Even if you have insurance, getting an appointment with a therapist can be a daunting task. Luckily, there are tons of places online that will connect you with a professional through video, phone or even text, including Talk Space and Doctor On Demand and 7 Cups

 

So Last Week... Things I Read That Are Totally Worth Your Time

Happy Sunday! I hope you are having a good weekend. Here are some thought-provoking things I read online last week. Okay, so techically I did't read all of these posts because I'm including a podcast here. But this is my blog, so I get to make up the rules. #GirlBoss

The Perpetual You: How I Transformed My Heart Chakra by Dani Havasy

Dani Havasy (who is one of my IRL best friends) writes a beautiful essay about opening up her heart chakra. Even if you have no idea what a chakra is (seriously it's okay if you don't, no judgements), you will relate to her story. Dani recently launched Core Chakra, an innovative fitness program that combines yoga and pilates. 

Style Scouting Podcast With Alia Ahmed-Yahia

I really like Alia Ahmed-Yahia's Style Scouting Podcast. This episode features an eye-opening conversation with Katie Sturino and Allison Neslage about influencers and the body positivity movement. While anyone will find it interesting, bloggers will particularly enjoy the "inside baseball" aspect of this discussion. 

Lenny Letter: Untitled And That's The Point! by Nicole Richie

Nicole Richie pens a funny and fearless essay for Lena Dunham's website. Having recently turned 35, Nicole reflects on her identity at various life stages and learning from her past mistakes. So many of us, myself included, allow the labels other people give us to influence the way we perceive ourselves. Nicole candidly discuss how she overcame this problem. Bookmark this link. If you don't read it now, you will need to at some point. I've always been a fan of hers and this is just another example of why.

Who What Wear: Try Sienna Miller's Outfit When You're Over Your Skinny Jeans

I saw a link to this post on Facebook and wanted to jump for joy because I'm always trying to find new inspiration for casual looks. However, the headline is misleading because (SPOILER ALERT) Sienna isn't wearing jeans at all. Either way, you will want to copy this great idea.

My Domaine: Are You Making These Rookie Decorating Mistakes?

It doesn't matter if you live in a studio apartment or sprawling estate, we're all trying to make the most of the space we have. This list features smart but simple ideas to instantly improve all of the rooms in our home without spending a dime.